Sorry, probably not the right spot to post this here. But i was after some help.

Does any one else have personal messages sitting in their outbox. Does it still mean they have been sent even if they are still sitting there? It says sent at that time of creation.

I press submit to the Paso member and thats where it goes. I currently have 4 parked there...

Is there a simple mistake I`m making i wonder............

It will sit in your outbox until the receiver reads it.

Which could take years for some of us